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N° 85. TUESDAY, OCTOBER 25, 1709.
From my own Apartment, October 24. My brother Tranquillus, who is a man of business, came to me this morning into my study, and after many very civil expressions in return for what good offices I had done him, told me,' he desired to carry his wife, my sister, that very morning, to his own house. I readily told him, “I would wait upon him, without asking why he was so impatient to rob us of his good company. He went out of my chamber, and I thought seemed to have a little heaviness upon him, which gave me some disquiet. Soon after my sister came to me, with a very matron-like air, and most sedate satisfaction in her looks, which spoke her very much at ease; but the traces of her countenance seemed to discover that she had been lately in a passion, and that air of content to flow from a certain triumph upon some advantage obtained. She no sooner sat down by me, but I perceived she was one of those ladies who begin to be managers within the time of their being brides.-Without letting her speak, which I saw she had a mighty inclination to do, I said, ' Here has been your husband, who tells me he has a mind to
home this very morning, and I have consented to it.'-. It is well,' said she, “ for you
must know-__'-- Nay, Jenny,' said I, 'I beg your pardon, for it is you must know-You are to understand, that now is the time to fix or alienate your
husband's heart for ever; and I fear you have been a little indiscreet in your expressions or behaviour towards him, even here in my house.'—* There has,' says she, “been some words : but I will be judged by you if he was not in the wrong: nay, I need not be judged by any body, for he gave it up himself, and said not a word when he saw me grow passionate, but, “Madam, you are perfectly in the right of it:" as you shall judge'-Nay, Madam,' said I, “I am judge already, and tell you, that you are perfectly in the wrong of it; for if it was a matter of importance, I know he has better sense than you; if a trifle, you know what I told you on your wedding-day, that you were to be above little provocations.' She knows very well I can be sour upon occasion, therefore gave me leave to go on.
Sister,' said I, “I will not enter into the dispute between you, which I find his prudence put an end to before it came to extremity; but charge you to have a care of the first quarrel, as you tender your happiness; for then it is that the mind will reflect harshly upon every circumstance that has ever passed between you. If such an accident is ever to happen, which I hope never will, be sure to keep to the circumstance before you; make no allusions to what is passed, or conclusions referring to what is to come : do not shew a hoard of matter for dissension in your breast; but, if it is necessary, lay before him the thing as you understand it, candidly, without being ashamed of acknowledging an error, or proud of being in the right. If a young couple be not careful in this point, they will get into a habit of wrangling: and when to displease is thought of no consequence, to please is always of as little moment. There is a play, Jenny, I have for