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and it is an ill Expreffion of
our Affe&tion and our Charity, Nemo me lacrymis decoret nec fu-
to weep uncomfortably at a Faxit: cur? volito yivu' per ora virûm.
change that hath carried my
Friend to the state of a huge Fe-

Πέρσας μέντοι πάντας ότι το μνήμα

τεμόν παρακαλείτε, συνηθησομένες εμοί, licity. But if the Man did pea ότι ώ τω ασφαλά ήδη έσομαι, ως μηrifth in his Folly and his Sins, δεν άν έτι κακών παθείν, μήτε ήν μεthere is indeed cause to mourn,

τα τα θεία γένωμαι , μήτε ήν μηδέν

έτι ώ. but no hopes of being comfort

Cyrus apud Xenoph. lib. 8. c. 47. ed; for he shall never return to light, or to hopes of restitution. Therefore beware lest thou also come into the same Place of Torment; and let thy Grief sit down and reft upon thy own Turf, and weep till a Shower springs from thy Eyes to heal the Wounds of thy Spirit; turn thy Sorrow into Caution, thy Grief for him that is dead, to thy Care for thy self who art alive : Lest thou die, and fall like one of the Fools, whose Life is worse than Death, and their Death is the Consummation of all Felicities. * The Church in her * S. Chryfoft. Funerals of the Dead used to sing Psalms, and to give Hom. 4. Heb. Thanks for the redemption and delivery of the Soul from the evils and dangers of Mortality. And therefore we have no reason to be angry when God hears our Prayers, who call upon him to haften his coming, and to fill up his Numbers, and to do that which we pretend to give him Thanks for. And S. Chrysostom asks, To what purpose is it that thou fingest, Return unto thy Rest, O my Soul? &c. if thou dost not believe thy láteoxa Oy Friend to be in Rest; and if thou doft, why dost thou xa ców ufu, weep impertinently and unreasonably? Nothing but 23 reces 637 our own Loss can justly be deplored : And him that is

Il. 4.N.9. passionate for the loss of his Money or his Advantages, we esteem foolish and imperfect; and therefore have no reason to love the immoderate Sorrows of those who too earnestly mourn for their Dead, when, in the last Resolution of the Enquiry, it is their own Evil and present or feared Inconveniences they deplore: The best that can be said of such a Grief is, that those Mourners love themselves too well. Something is to be given to Custom, something to Fame, to Nature, and to Civilities, and to the Honour of the deceased






Friends; for that Man is esteemed to die miserable, for

whom no Friend Mors optima est, perire duni lacrymant sui. Sen. Hippol. or Relative sheds a Μηδέ μοι άκλαυς θανατώ μόλοι, αλλά φιλοισι. Καλλίπoιμι θαναν αλγεα και σοναχές.

Tear, or pays a so

lemn Sigh. I delire to die a dry Death, but am not very delirous to have a dry Funeral : Some Flowers sprinkled upon my Grave would do well and comely; and a soft Shower to turn ibose Flowers into a springing Memory or a fair Rehearsal, that I may not go forth of my Doors as my Servants carry the Entrails of Beasts.

But that which is to be faulted in this particular, is, when the Grief is immoderate and unreasonable : And Paula Romana deserved to have felt the weight of S. Hieron's fevere Reproof, when at the death of every of her Children she almost wept her self into her Grave. But it is worse yet, when People by an ambitious and a pompous Sorrow, and by Ceremonies invented for the a oiten

tation of their Grief, fill Expe&tavimus lacrymas ad oftentationem do- Heaven and Earth with loris paratas : ut ergo ambitiosus detonuit. texit

b Exclamations, and superbum pallio caput & manibus inter se usq; ad articulorum ftrepitum contrițis, ol, Betron, grow troublesome beb Ως ο πατής, & σιδος οδύρε) όσεα κείων

cause their friend is hapΝυμφίε, οσε θανων διαλος ακίχησε τοκας

py, or themselves want "Ως 'Αχιλευς εταίροιο οδύρετο οσια κων,

bis Company. It is cer'Egau Swanese wugusilsi, oidovce ordex?wv.

Iliad 1. 8. 223.

tainly a fad thing in Na

ture,to see a Friend trembling with a Palsy, or scorched with Fevers, or dried Non Siculæ up like a Potjheard with iinmoderate Heats

, and rowling dapes dul- upon his uneafy Bed without Sieep, which cannot be cein elabo invited with Mufick, or pleasant Murmurs, or a decent rabunt fa- Stilnefs: nothing but the Servants of cold Death, Poppy porem, non avium ci

and Weariness, can tempt the Eyes to let their Curtains tharæque down; and then they neep only to taste of Death, Cantus som- and make an Essay of the Shades below: And yet num redu

weep not here, the period and opportunity for Hor. Od. 1.

Tears we chuse when our Friend is fallen alleep, when

he hath laid his Neck upon the Lap of his Mother and -Tremulúmque caput descendere juflit

let his c Head down to In cælum, & longam manantia labra làlivam. be raised up to Heaven. Juu, Sat, 6. ř. 621. This Grief is ill placed




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and undecent. But many times it is worse: And it hath been observed, that those greater and stormy Passions do so spend the whole stock of Grief, that they prefently admit a Comfort and contrary Affe&ion; while a Sorrow that is even and temperate goes on to its Period with expectation and the distances of a just time. The Ephesian-Woman that the Soldier told of in Petronius, was the talk of all the Town, and the rarest Example of a dear Affe&tion to her Husband: She descended with the Corps into the Vault, and there being attended with her Maiden, resolved to weep to Death, of die with Famine or a distemper'd Sorrow: From which Resolution not his nor her Friends, nor the Reverence of the principal Citizens, who used the Intreaties of their Charity and their Power, could perfuade her. But a Soldier that watched Seven dead Bodies hanging upon Trees just over against this Monument, crept in, and a while stared upon the silent and comely disorders of the Sorrow; and having let the Wonder a while breathe out at each other's Eyes, at last he fetched his Supper and a Bottle of Wine, with purpose to eat and drink, and still to feed himself with that fad Prettinefs. His Pity and first draught of Wine made him bold, and curious to try if the Maid wou'd drink: Who, having many Hours since felt her Resolution faint as her wearied Body, took his Kindness; and the Light returned into her Eyes, and danced like Boys in a Festival: And fearing left the pertinaciousness of her Mistress's Sorrows Mou'd cause her Evil to revert, or her Shame to approach, aflayed whether the wou'd endure to hear an Argument to persuade her to drink and live. The violent Paflion had laid all her Spirits in Wildness and Dissolution, and the Maid found them willing to be gathered into Order at the arrest of any new Object, being weary of the first, of which like Leeches they had sucked their fill till they fell down and burst. The weeping Woman took her Cordial, and was not angry with her maid, and heard the Soldier talk. And he was so pleased with the Change, that he, who first lov'd the Silence of the Sorrow, was more in love with the Musick of her returning Voice, cfpecially


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which himself had srung and put in Tune: And the Man began to talk amorously, and the Woman's weak Head and Heart was soon pofseffed with a little Wine, and grew gay, and talked, and fell in Love; and that very Night in the Morning of her Passion, in the Grave of her Husband, in the Pomps of Mourning, and in her Funeral Garments, married her new and stranger-Guest. For so the wild Foragers of Libya being spent with Heat, and dissolved by the too fond kisses of the Sun, do melt with their common Fires, and die with Faintness, and descend, with Motions flow, and unable, to the little Brooks that descend from Heaven in the Wilderness : And when they drink they return into the vigour of a new Life, and contra a strange Marriages, and the Lioness is courted by a Panther, and the Biftens to his Love, and conceives a Monster that all Men call unnatural and the Daughter of an equivocal Passion, and of a sudden Refreshment. And so also was it in the Cave at Ephesus; for by this time the Soldier began to think it was fit he should return to his Watch and observe the dead Bodies he had in Charge : But when he ascended from his mourning bridal Chamber, he found that one of the Bodies was stolen by the Friends of the dead, and that he was fallen into an evil Condition, because by the Laws of Ephesus, his Body was to be fixed in the place of it. The poor Man returns to his Woman, cries out bitterly, and in her Presence resolves to die to prevent his Death, and in secret to prevent his Shame. But now the Woman's Love was raging like her former Sadness, and grew witty, and ine conforted her Soldier , and persuaded him to live, lest by losing him who had brought her from Death and a more grievous Sorrow, she should return to her old Solemnities of dying, and lose her Honour for a Dream, or the Reputation of her Constancy, without the change and satisfaction of an enjoied Love. The Man would fain have lived, if it had been possible, and the found out this way for him ; That he should take the Body of her first Hufband, whose Funeral she had fo ftrangely mourned, and put it upon the Gallows in the Place of the


stoln Thief. He did so, and escaped the present Danger, to potsess a Love which might change as violently as her Grief had done. But so have I seen a Crowd of disordered People rush violently and in Heaps, till their utmost Border was restrained by a Wall, or had spent the fury of the first fluctuation and watry progress, and by and by it returned to the contrary with the same Earnestness, only because it was violent and ungoverned. A raging Paffion is this Crowd, which, when it is not under discipline and the conduct of Reason, and the proportions of temperate Humanity, runs passionately the way it happens, and by and by as greedily to another Side, being swayed by its own Weight, and driven any whither by Chance, in all its Pursuits having no Rule, but to do all it can, and spend it self in hafte, and expire with some Shame and much Undecency.

When thou hast wept a while, compose the Body to Burial : Which, that it be done gravely, decently and charitably, we have the Example of all Nations to engage us, and of all Ages of the World to warrant : so that it is against common Honesty, and publick Fame and Reputation, not to do this Office.

It is good that the Body be kept veiled and secret, and not exposed to curious Eyes, or the Dishonours wrought by the changes of Death discerned and stared upon by impertinent Persons. When Cyrus was dying, he called his Sons and Friends to take their Leave, to touch his Hand, to see him the last time, and gave in Charge, that when he had put his Veil over his Face no Man should uncover it. And Epiphanius his Body was rescued from inquisitive Eyes by a Miracle. Let it be interred after the (*) manner of the Country, and the Laws of the Place, and the Dignity of the Person. For so Jacob was buried with (*) Nówors insats, coīsiv 17 xóeges rezãe, great Solemnity, and 3ο- Τύμβον δ' και μάλα πολλών εγώ πονέες Seph's Bones were carried in- 'Ara' exéz toñor. to Cannan, after they had

Iliad. f. 8. 245. been embalmed and kept Four Hundred Years; and devout Men carried S. Stephen to his Burial, making great Lamentation over him. And Ælian tells, that those



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