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being she loves degraded in the esteem of others. It is a part of real affection to be unselfish-to desire the welfare of the beloved rather than its own; and the same love which will enable a girl to pardon the errors of her friend will make her solicitous beyond anything for their correction. If then you are so happy as to find such a friend,

Grapple her to thy soul with hooks of steel.” Guard your own conduct towards her, and let it justify her regard. Endeavour to let all your reunions have some improving tendency; make a resolution (and keep to it) that scandal and detraction form no part of your occupation when together, but rather seek for some intellectual subject of mutual interest to discuss, some book to read, or some piece of music to practise, which shall occupy you more profitably than talking of the concerns of others.

When, as it sometimes happens, you are the friend of two young ladies who are mutually acquainted, -perhaps even more intimately than you are with either of them,-you may have a part to act which will give you the power of doing considerable good or evil. In such cir

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cumstances, remember, that to reveal to one what the other did not intend should be revealed, is a breach of confidence only to be justified by some very powerful motive. If you are doubtful whether it is a matter of duty to repeat a certain conversation, or relate such an action, examine your own motives rigidly. Ask yourself whether it be not rather a love of importance, or a mere liking for scandal,.than anything else which tempts you to speak. Ask yourself what good can result from the revelation and bethink yourself of the “ blessing” pronounced on peacemakers. “The tale-bearer,"

says the Bible, "revealeth secrets; but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth a matter.” If your spirit be a faithful one, you will hesitate long before you make known to one person what is said by another; you should be very well convinced not only that it is right it should be known, but that you are the right and fit person to give the information, before you venture on opening the floodgates of strife.

The silly jealousy which some girls affect towards those for whom they profess regard would be almost too absurd for notice, did we not see annoying results occasionally arise from it.

To wish to monopolise the attention and the conversation of one we profess to be attached to is to prove, not our love, but our self-love.

“ True love in this differs from gold and clay,

That, to divide, is not to take away.
Love is like understanding, which grows bright
Gazing on many truths.”

The affection of those who, being surrounded by a large circle of acquaintances and relatives, yet profess a kindly feeling only to one or two, is greatly to be doubted.

In your own family, even more than among strangers, a nice attention to politeness is incumbent on you..

To address brothers or sisters with less courtesy than visitors is an error of judgment no less than of feeling. Indeed, it may be laid down as a rule, that the more intimate the association, the greater need there is for punctilious politeness; and I may observe that the practice of it is quite as beneficial to the recipient as to the actor.

Avoid all roughness of language in your intercourse with your family. Civility costs nothing, but it endears those who practise it to all about them.

Towards sisters, however, something more than mere politeness is required. Members of the same family, and generally brought up together, it is wonderful that any cause of disunion should ever arise between them. That it is so is greatly to be deplored, and much may be done to avoid it. In the first place, let each one remember that the Almighty, who has made every leaf of a tree to differ from the others, has created human beings all with various tempers and peculiarities. Some may be in accordance with our own; some may be peculiarly disagreeable ; but we may

be very sure that every one has some virtue, which we have only to seek to discover, whilst a knowledge of our own hearts will tell us this great fact, that we can never see in the conduct of others so much evil as we know to exist in our own hearts. Self-knowledge will teach us to think very humbly of ourselves and very gently of others; and what can conduce to domestic happiness more than this spirit?

A habit of criticising others, and finding fault with them, even in jest, is so apt to develope itself into an odious spirit of gossip and scandal that no young girl who values happiness will indulge in it. To some the gift of uttering witty speeches offers a great temptation to indulge in this pernicious habit.

« The girl' renowned for repartee
Will seldom scruple to make free

With friendship's finest feeling;
Will thrust a dagger in your breast,
And say she wounded you in jest,

By way of balm for healing.”

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But such a girl cannot expect to be beloved, eved by her own family: it remains for her to determine whether it is worth while to lose her friend for the sake of a bon-mot.

Practical jokes should always be avoided by those who seek domestic happiness. Seldom do they prove a source of enjoyment to any but the perpetrators, and to many they will give deadly offence.

Infirmities of temper are a great misfortune, but infinitely more to the transgressor than to those who suffer the wrong. What can equal